The Writing Mommy
California is burning. The air is so thick with smoke I can taste and smell it in everything. This afternoon it was reminisant of a glouish nasty yellow fog I saw in a Stephen King movie. The advisories said to keep small children inside, especially those with asthma.Four of my grandchildren are staying with me for this week. And one has asthma. So we have to stay inside, or go to enclosed play areas.What this means is I can’t write. I’m spending almost every waking moment of the day, trying to keep a 12, 5, 3, & 2 year old busy with indoor activities. I’m spending a lot of time settling their little skirmishes over just about everything, large or small, that suddenly takes on great life altering importance to them.This has given me a new appreciation for the writing mommy. I have put them on a pedestal to turn them into my new hero. How they manage to get any type of creative writing done, is something short of a miracle. I mean really, canonization to sainthood, might not be good enough. Promoting them to Goddess is more like it.How do they find not only the time, but the energy! When my little scamps go off to bed, I’m absolutely exhausted. All I can think about is sitting down long enough to watch a single television program straight through, without having to jump up and do something for the kids. My brain is dead, and I can’t even try to write a single sentence about anything other than the beauty of sitting down for one hour uninterrupted.I raised my three kids as a single parent. I know what it takes to keep sanity in the house, or at least something that resembles organized chaos. The difference, I wasn’t writing. I barely had time to wash my face before bed, let alone sit down and plug out a couple of pages of a story floating around in my head. Survival took over any desire to produce a book. Writing was off in the distant wasteland called, ’Things I’d like to do someday when I have time.’I know writers who work full-time, have children, a husband, and house. How they managed to get published or even complete a manuscript worthy of publishing, I can’t find the words to describe my awe. New York Best-seller, Allison Brennan has five kids, and is a BEST-SELLER! When she first sold, she had a newborn, worked full-time, and had her other children to take care of. We have two writing mommies right here at CH. Virna works, has three kids and writes. Misa has five kids and is published. I have my grandkids for a week, and I think my writing has disappeared into the abbess of never to be seen again. I have trouble writing and taking care of my husband and one small black cat, let alone my grandchildren on occasion. The sad part, neither the hubby or cat are very demanding.All the writing mommies, both non-published and published, my hat is off to you. I don’t know how you do it. You are my hero.As I write this, across the hall is the bedroom where my grandkids are supposed to be sleeping. From the darkness I hear the tiny voice of my 2 year old grandson.Jaren: Nana?Nana: What is it, Jaren?Jaren: I done.Nana: Done with what?Jaren: Sleeping. Nana: SighQuestion of the Day: Who do you admire, who would be the most unlikely hero?
Everyone loves a good hero, but what do readers, agents, editors, and writers love most? Join us as we delve under the covers and find out!

June 27th, 2008 at 7:56 am
Lee, my daughter is a writer. She has written several books. She has 4 children , a husband and a dog. Her boys are 9, 7,5 and 2. She is expecting a little girl in Nov. Her house always looks nice and the children clean. How does she do it? I haven’t a clue. I was married when I was raising my 2 children and had cleaning help once a week. I never had time or energy to do much except cook and clean. I didn’t work outside the home either. I guess the young today have something special going on that we didn’t have. Any way, she is my hero. I’ll bet you couldn’t tell how proud I am of her. They are military and move every couple of years. Just completed a move from Camp Lejeune, NC to Monterey, CA. From 1 ocean to another. Have a great day and hugs to all.
June 27th, 2008 at 8:00 am
OMG Lee, you are so funny (and incredible!-how lucky your kids (and grandkids) are to have you!). Thank goodness for people like you (and my mom, who is there every time I need her) and my husband (who takes on so much of the load of house and family to let me pursue my passion). My kids understand my passion, but that doesn’t mean they’re going to be quiet or go to sleep when I’m burning to finish a scene. But it’s all a juggling game. Like you, I write when I can, I try to write when I’m inspired, and I try not to be resentful when I have to let it go. Ultimately, however, it’s family and friends and love that matters. The responsibility and distractions are always there–just like when you needed to take time off for your dad. Mother or not, writing is both the blessing and the curse that keeps us sane AND on the verge of insanity. At least that’s me, anyway!
June 27th, 2008 at 8:21 am
To have a understanding husband is very important to the writing mommy. Inspiration, can strike at any moment. I know it hits me at very strange times, so to have the other half willing and ready to take over when needed, is so very important to the success of the passion. I admire them too. My husband has been great this week, considering how much we’ve been indoors, and today it looks like another really crappy day with the smoke. He is going to take the two oldest on a tour of local hardward stores in the truck, (they love poppy’s truck) to look for a mysterious tool, while the little ones nap. I can’t waste the oppertunity, because another one may not come until they go home on Sunday. Then of course, I’ll whine how quiet my house is, and how much I miss them.