KEEPING IT IN CONTEXT
Female authors are often cautioned to create authentic male characters. Characters that not only look like men, but behave and talk like them, too. I totally agree with this premise. After all, we want our characters to be both believable and distinct enough so that, even without speech tags, readers can distinguish one character from another just through dialogue.
However, I don’t believe that a male character fails to be authentic if he’s informed about women’s fashion, knows what color magenta is, or uses words like “lush” or “chest” instead of “tits,” “boobs,” or (please, no) “knockers.” Along the same lines, I don’t think it’s a foregone conclusion that men, even alpha men, don’t know the difference between cotton and silk, or a chignon and a French twist.
Dane uses adjectives and nouns to describe the heroine that don’t fit within traditional notions of “man speak”: intriguing, even-featured, French twist, slim (twice), fine-boned. Granted, he uses the word “clean-looking” instead of silky, but this seems more masculine to me only in its contrast to the other words. It doesn’t make the other words overly un-masculine.
I love Dane’s character. I like male characters who use words like lush or luscious. Do I hear many men use the word? Nope. I don’t hear many of them use the words slim or fine-boned or French twist, either. Doesn’t mean they don’t think them. And it doesn’t mean my male characters are wimps for thinking or saying them, so long as I develop their strong, macho, alpha side in other ways or other internal thoughts and dialogue.
My point is this – be vigilant and deliberate in how you craft your male characters, but don’t categorize or stereotype them so as to take all the romance out of them, either. Don’t be afraid to give your heroes a little finesse. It’ll make them more complex.
Don’t get me wrong! I can be attracted to a guy who uses the word “tits,” too. It just depends on the context.
What do you think is the most important mannerism or trait a hero must have (and must not have) in order to be authentically masculine?
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February 20th, 2008 at 3:32 pm
To me, a hero must have manly hands. Ones that look like they know what a hard day’s work is, and they’re not afraid of doing it. You can be an executive and still look like you could go home after work and mow the lawn if it needs it.
February 20th, 2008 at 4:23 pm
I love the man who is really rough around the edges, and yet sensitive. One who has deep wisdom from life experiences.
February 20th, 2008 at 8:09 pm
Hands are a great, great feature, Jill. Hands that look capable and experienced and strong, but can be gentle when needed. Love it!
Exactly what I just described, Lee!
February 21st, 2008 at 12:36 am
That is such a tough question, V! I think it’s a man’s ability to listen that set him apart as a hero (strong, masculine hands aside). He has to show that he cares about the heroine, and about others in the world around him, even if he demonstrates this in small ways. A man reading the newspaper while a woman talks appears not to be listening, but when he lowers the paper, directs his full attention on her, and begins to participate in the conversation, thereby demonstrating that he WAS paying attention all along, is more powerful (and I’d say authentic) than a man who’s riveted by every word his woman speaks.